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Other Info:
Hi I am Ben (yes it is a pen name)
I am a 38 year old heterosexual man, over 6 foot tall, like to live a healthy happy life, a country boy at heart who was raised with christian values as a child and have formed my own opinion along the way.
I don't know how to say this but I have blue eyes I get told from ladies of all ages that my eyes are very blue.
Would drink once in a year or two, don't see the point of doing drugs.
It sounds silly to say this but right at the moment the desire for more children is so strong.
I have two ways to look at this
First option Donor
My preference is a distant uncle type that would like to see photo from time to time (at least every six months).
But I am also happy to help with no contact as well. (its good to talk about this up front, so we know where we stand)
I can help with 1 up to 4 children.
If you would like to see a photo please ask for one.
It's difficult to just put it all in a box, because not all situations are the same, so don't be shy about sending me a message, if you would like to discuss anything that may be on your mind.
Option two co-parent
I would like to meet someone that is honest, down to earth, a no fuss/drama type of girl, intelligent, good looking, neat and tidy, good friend who gets along with everyone, "pushes her own cart" type of person.
I would like to pursue the possibility of a good old fashion partnership with the right person.
I am wanting to live a happy and fulfilled life with that special girl/lady.
For your information
I have 3 children already who I love to bits.
I don't believe in running away from them or their mother (as we are still friends) or pretending that they are not there (just because their mum and dad haven't had "bedroom activity" that's not their fault nor problem.)
They are good children get top grades and trophies for their work from their school and are very business minded to boot.
I am looking for someone who is willing to accept them, and enjoy their company as much as I do, as I want to start a new family and relationship with someone worthwhile.
I hope you can see my points.
* Why do people have to end their marriages in hate and tears all round, no one wins in the long run, and that's a fact.
* You will have to form a friendship/relationship/bond (whatever you call it) with the person who fathered your babies no matter what, as you will always have a link to that person whether you like it or not....... and believe it or not so will your children LOL so it may as well be a good one.
* It's unrealistic to expect to find a 38 year old family man with no children, just waiting around to be a sperm donor.
I've being doing this for a few years now, and I realize that most women are repulsed by men that have a family already. The good family men who want children are partnered up, having them or have had them. And what's left want to play as hard as they can. It appears that what is wanted is totally ridiculous - a tall, handsome 40ish blue-eyed, successful, athletic, rich, university educated, slim man who has no baggage (family, children, ex, still living with mum etc etc). Last time I checked Mills and Boon didn't have a sperm donor website lol
Or better still, a little sachet blister pack just inside the front cover for D.I.Y. inseminations ( sounds like a good business plan though we could make a fortune ha ha)
* You may as well know that I like to be honest as I don't see the point of starting anything based on a lie.
* I think the best teacher in life is experience and I am trying to make the best decisions I can taking into account what I see as my responsibilities.
* If you would like to talk about anything feel free to message me.
My time is very important to me as is yours, and I believe that what goes around comes around.
I have decided that because I am not enjoying the emotional roller-coaster of
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