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Other Info:
I always thought I'd be the stay at home soccer mom; at least during the developmental years (I hate the idea of day care). Unfortunately, I never met the right guy. Nevertheless, I can't picture my life without a child. I want our child to have an active, hands on, full time daddy/(ies). I have a cute garden home in a great little neighborhood. Two English Bulldogs and a chi-weenie (who was "an accident", but loved all the same). I love cleaning and working on my house and flower beds. I like DIY projects but they usually turn into "OMG...I can't believe I just broke that s*!t" projects. I have a great life to offer and share but I have to budget. No spoiled kids here-so don't go making me look like the bad guy ;)
In a perfect world, I would love to live within the same neighborhood so our child could have access to both homes, clothes, toys, homework, personal belongings, BUT most importantly; to both, either, all parents-anytime. Despite this progressive twist to being a parent, I don't want her to be the one to have to suffer routine long distance trips. Living in two cities, having two sets of friends, schools, extracurricular activities, etc.
Extended family is a bonus because I have a very small family. I hope she'll have lots of aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. I have one older brother who is a pilot in the military. A sister-in-law and two nephews. My parents met in the military and are still alive and married. However, my age group is referred to as the "gap generation" because we are trying to raise our babies and take care of our elderly parents. This scenario applies to me. My only cousin died of Cystic Fibrosis so if you are Caucasian I will insist on genetic testing. I don't want to scare anyone. Both parents (almost exclusively Caucasian/of European decent) have to carry the gene to produce a child with Cystic Fibrosis. Statistically, chances are slim and testing is inexpensive.
I'm looking to have a child with someone who is intelligent, mature, settled, financially secure, educated, responsible, flexible, able to communicate, and willing to compromise. But MOST IMPORTANTLY-good at math homework. I want to make it clear that I am looking to have a child that is OURS. Not your's when he/she is with you and vice versa. I am not a surrogate. I am looking for an individual(s) who encourages spending time together as a family, enjoys each other's company, works as a unit, respects each other's child rearing preferences, AND for God's sake is able to get pissed off and talk it out. Kids are hard! If I wanted to get involved in a bitter, acrimonious relationship I would have married and divorced.
I want to co-parent with my best friend.
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